I googled this and found nothing. Granted Holden is young we do nothing to provoke this response to Holden going with his dad. We leave parenting discussions until the kids are in bed and never say anything terrible about his dad. My parents still do this to me today and it still hurts. I don't care their feelings I still love my parents.
FIRST, FIND OUT WHY?
If your child is old enough understanding “why” your child refuses to visit will help you be the parent and resolve the issue. Make sure you are not treating your child like a criminal asking questions that may hurt or feel too persistent. It may be best for younger children to use puppets or social stories.
25 WAYS TO HELP DEAL WITH YOUR CHILD REFUSING VISITATION: