I believe adults make choices. I believe choices have rewards or consequences. I have made the choice everyday to wake up and take care of my children. No matter what. My children everyday are my reward. I am a mom working. I have obligations to other people and my family. I could choose to make more money else where, but I choose my children. My children are my life and I do not want it any other way. I choose full time. What I mean by all this is I choose that no matter what I am doing my children are my responsibility and my priority. If you need something and my child also needs something, my children will come first 100% of the time. I am a full time mother working.
For a father in most circumstances, you still choose full time or part time in a secondary role. I say most, because I was raised by my father FULL TIME. Congratulations to fathers surviving the primary role. I know from being a product of a father choosing full time it is not easy. Now, though you are in a secondary role you still can choose full or part time.
Do you show up at every school event, activity, conferences, etc? Do you know who your child's friends are? Do you know where to find your kids clothes? Do you help with homework? Here's some if you are not with your child's mother; do you show up on time to each pick up or drop off? Do you call to check with school, daycare, etc to find out more about your child? Do you call your child every night or almost every night?
If you answered no to any of these questions you are part time. Whether you are with your child's mother or not full and part time are both options. No matter what your circumstances your child always deserves full time. Choose full time.